Win Sky+HD for a year and a trip to Barcelona
Beatrice Okechukwu remembers her sister Ruth as a real tomboy. No pink, God forbid, and no girlie things. “You could never get her in a dress. Not even for church on Sundays,” she says. Even more than dresses, Ruth hated the camera. So today, as Beatrice pays tribute to her 18-year-old sister who was stabbed to death in south London 17 months ago, there are almost no family photographs to share. Beatrice, 32, who works for a charity helping the homeless, can offer only memories.
Beatrice and her family, her father Ben, a pastor at a local Pentecostal church, her mother Pauline and her two brothers were at the Old Bailey last month to see justice done — and to come face to face with Ruth’s killer. Roberto Malasi, 18, pleaded guilty to two unrelated murders in the same neighbourhood.
The Angolan refugee was living in Peckham, south London, when he shot Zainab Kalokoh, 33, at a christening party. Two weeks later, in September 2005, he stabbed Ruth because she had shown “disrespect” towards him. He allegedly told friends that she had eavesdropped on a telephone conversation. Two days later he armed himself with a knife and, along with a gang of seven youths, lay in wait for her. Malasi, who was remanded in custody, will be sentenced this week.
Ruth was murdered in a quiet street on the outskirts of Peckham, an area that has dominated the headlines for the past week. Last Tuesday a 15-year-old boy, Michael Dosunmu, was shot when gunmen burst into his home. His was the third murder in four days in the area. Last Saturday Javorie Crighton, 21, on bail for drug offences, was stabbed to death. The following day a Nigerian man in his forties was shot dead; a man with him was wounded. The previous week James Smarrt-Ford, 16, was shot dead at Streatham ice rink, just a few miles away.
Since Ruth’s death her family have appealed to their local community to help to stamp out the violent culture that is rife on the streets of Britain. “I feel shocked and saddened by what has happened,” Beatrice says of the recent murders. “And for the first time I am beginning to feel afraid in my neighbourhood.”
To help to combat the problem, she wants to see the introduction of after-school clubs in secondary schools to help to keep children occupied and off the streets. “But parents have to play their part, too,” she says. “It can’t just be up to teachers. Mothers and fathers need to know where their children are, what they are doing and who they are with.”
And it’s not just a Peckham problem. “I think what happened to Ruth could have happened anywhere in Britain, in any city, any town and any street,” she adds.
The statistics prove her point. Figures from the Home Office reveal that the number of deaths from sharp instruments such as knives between 1998 and 1999 stood at 202. But by 2003 that number had increased by more than 25% to 268.
What is happening on the streets of Peckham? Is it worse than any other deprived area? Camilla Batmangheldijh, who runs Kids Company, a charity for disadvantaged children, says the trafficking of firearms in that area is the only factor that distinguishes it from the rest of Britain. “These murders stem from a street economy that revolves around the drug trade and other criminal activity,” she says. “The savage aspects of the human being are having to be deployed in order to survive.”
For Batmangheldijh these young gang members are not feral children but “forgotten” ones who have been failed by their families and are often disturbed. They may have absent fathers or have parents who are drug addicts or who are mentally ill: “Their basic needs of love, food and shelter are not being met. They really do have nowhere to go.”
When that happens, she adds, society in the form of youth workers and mentors must act in loco parentis. She is also calling for the introduction of centres across the country, run by trained staff and youth workers, where they can drop in: “They need human relationships which are so lacking in their lives.”
Ruth was the youngest of four children born to Ben and Pauline after they left their native Nigeria in the early 1970s. They settled in an estate off the Old Kent Road, southeast London. With a 13-year age gap between them, Beatrice felt more like a second mother to Ruth than a sister: “When I left home she was still a child. But we were close in that we would always talk about her life and her plans.” During one of their last conversations, she encouraged her sister, who was still living at home, to aim for university. Ruth, studying for a BTEC at a west London college, talked of reading sports science at Cambridge or Brunel.
The family has been piecing together what happened to Ruth in the days leading up to her death. On Friday, September 9, she had gone to visit a female friend at her house. The girl took a call on her mobile phone from a boy the family now knows to have been Malasi. He was abusive to her. Ruth was incensed and seized the phone and began arguing with him.
On Saturday evening she went to a birthday party attended by Malasi. He bumped into her and she “nudged” him. According to various accounts heard by the family, he planned to kill her there, but she was surrounded by friends.
On Sunday, the last day of Ruth’s life, her parents went to church. That afternoon she walked round the corner to a girlfriend’s house. What happened next is unclear, but it seems that they arranged to meet a boy later on. The pair walked to a quiet road where Malasi was sitting in a car waiting for them.
Ruth got in beside the boy she was meeting, whereupon a gang of seven youths plus Malasi came from nowhere. She was stabbed in the chest by Malasi as she sat in the car. She managed to get out and reach for her mobile phone and was in the middle of calling for help when she slumped on the pavement. Passers-by called an ambulance.
She was pronounced dead shortly after her arrival at nearby King’s College hospital. In denial, Beatrice asked to see Ruth’s body. Cuts to her hand and face showed that she had put up a fight. “Her eyes and mouth were open. She looked in shock.” It is a cruel image to have to carry around. Beatrice believes that Ruth was lured to her death and that she was simply too trusting. “She was streetwise but not streetwise enough,” she says.
Explore your passion for food with the delights of Thai, Indian & Chinese cooking
In our new series, Tony Hawks takes a dry, wry look at modern life - junk mail, interminable meetings and snooty sales assistants
Read the training tips and advice that helped our London Triathletes
Read our exclusive 100 Years of Fleming and Bond interactive timeline, packed with original Times articles and reviews
The latest travel news plus the best hotels and gadgets for business travellers
Shortcuts to help you find sections and articles
2007
£30,000
2006
£14,337
2008
£39,937
Great car insurance deals online
c.£75,000
GlosFirstmeansbusiness
Gloucestershire
£32,795 - £41,545
Universitry of Southampton
Southampton
£
£32,795 - £41,545
Universitry of Southampton
Southampton
Competitive Package
Npower
West Midlands
1 & 2 Bed apartments
From £249,995
Great Investment, River Views
Great Dubai Investment Opportunities
from £89,950
low-cost ownership homes in London
Las Vegas SALE!
£POA
With Ramblers Worldwide Holidays!
£POA
List your property with two leading travel websites
£POA
Great travel insurance deals online
Contact our advertising team for advertising and sponsorship in Times Online, The Times and The Sunday Times. Globrix Property Search - find property for sale and rent in the UK. Milkround Job Search - for graduate careers in the UK. Visit our classified services and find jobs, used cars, property or holidays. Use our dating service, read our births, marriages and deaths announcements, or place your advertisement.
Copyright 2008 Times Newspapers Ltd.
This service is provided on Times Newspapers' standard Terms and Conditions. Please read our Privacy Policy.To inquire about a licence to reproduce material from Times Online, The Times or The Sunday Times, click here.This website is published by a member of the News International Group. News International Limited, 1 Virginia St, London E98 1XY, is the holding company for the News International group and is registered in England No 81701. VAT number GB 243 8054 69.
This whole issue is nothing to do with immigration, poverty ect. its to do with parents not taking responsibility for their children. when a child is left to his own devices on the street they will generally gravitate towards negative influences such as drugs and guns. this is a law of nature.
harj, birmingham, uk
just looking at what has been said, my deepest sympathes to Beatrice Okechukwu. Right now i am raising funds to keep a youth helpcentre that stackles issues such as crimes and also a haven for where youths come in and do something positive with their lifes.
if you want to know more please check out my website at www.justgiving.com/kimberlygold
Kimberly, London, England
I have lived in America for the last 27 years. But, my heart and mind is always on Peckham. I have not been home in all these years, so I read the newspapers to keep up to date with the old neighbourhood. I moved to Peckham from Walworth in 1975. I loved living in Peckham. In those days, people would say that Peckham was dangerous, but I never saw it that way. It was, like any urban area, a little rough around the edges, but it was also safe enough for us to walk home, on Sunday morning's after a night of partying, without worry. I am sorry to hear these killings. Here in Philadelphia we are going through the same thing. We have had at least one murder for each day of the year.
If you have children, help them to experience the joy that is life from an early age. Joy can be taught even in the most poverty ridden circumstances. Joy acknowledges pain and suffering, but it greets it with a resolute smile.
Paul O. Wright, Philadelphia, USA PA
My experience with he African community is that they are family orientated, and that their children do well, may gaining degrees. I am shocked at what is happening in Peckham and Southwark. It is time for the numerous black organisatons to help African kids who have gone off the rails. Also the Peckham and Southwark should prosecute parents who abandon their kids, in the expectation that the council will give them a free flat. Similarly children should not be allowed to change primary schools 7 or 8 times, without close monitoring.
Tipu Ramone, London, UK
Two things have contributed to the state of our children. The cult of materialism, and the breakdown of the family. The governmnet is not responsible for the first cause instead of gioving time to their children parents are giving them televisons, usualy in their bedrooms, parents complain of being too busy at work, but only because they want the lifestyle and the gadgets to keep themselves up with the Joneses, children don't need things they need relationships. The second issue is someththing the governmnet can do something abouit consistent governmnet policies have undermined marriage and family values, you are worse off tax wise if you get married, chilcare costs as mush as a good sized mortgage in terms of monthly paymnets, and the governmnet's attempts to prescribe everything from freedomm of thought to religous conscience has emascualted the church from where strong traditional values should come from.
Uche George, London, England
I don't agree that any one party is to blame for gun crime in the UK. I think the government has failed miserably in curbing the institutional bias against black kids in school. But I don't think the government are entirely to blame. Every one has a choice in life.
I was born into African immigrant family, raised in a council estate in Peckham by a working single mother just like a lot of these teenagers - but my mother always taught me that my potential in life is not determined by my genetics or my circumstances. Rather it is the way I react to these things. I'm black , was born into poverty but I worked hard, studied at a top 3 UK university and now have a well-paid career in the City. Had I not from a young age been instilled with a sense of self-worth, aspiration from MY PARENT, had I waited for the SYSTEM to solve all the problems I wouldn't be where I am today.
Sometimes the answer is not take the child out of the ghetto - but to take the ghetto out of the child.
Miss Anybody, London,
Anna
You're right about this problem isn't unique to black areas but the sad fact is Peckham has an especially high crime rate!
the other fact is the victim (Ruth) lived in Peckham too, yet she worked hard and was looking to move onto better things rather than wasting her life in crime. Why don't peaople start to realise it's greed and a lack of discipline that makes people criminals and stop blaming poor housing etc. Some of these council properties are considerably nicer than privately owned properties that honest, decent people slave away to pay mortgages for!
Luke, London, UK
To steven henry, london
You say that the government are stealing our money so that we "normal" people become poorer.
There is nothing "normal" about a man who shoots a lady in the head at a christening. There is nothing normal about a gang luring an unarmed girl to her death because she stood up for a friend who was being verbally abused. Things may not be perfect, but the idea of taxes is that we all contribute to improve things for the future. Yes there is corruption, and no, things don't always work the way they should, but show me a totally corruption-free government. If you are not happy here, there are plenty of other countries to try.
You say also that you "don't blame these kids for carrying a gun", are you then saying that you don't blame Roberto Malasi for these two savage, unprovoked murders? Is that too the fault of the government? Perhaps for providing shelter to immigrants.
G Naylor, paris,
We have kicked religion out of our schools, our government and are kicking it out of our lives. We want a society that is ethical, moral and upholds principles and values, yet where are are those to come from.
As parents, we are so overworked and starved of time that we have sadly left the responsibility of raising our children to equally overworked and underpaid teachers.
"Teach a child in the way he should go, and when he is older, he will not depart from it".
Antonia, London, Uk
the comments here make it look like these things happen only in areas with immigrants, but that is absolutely not true. youths of all backgrounds and ethnic minorities are affected; the probem is not immigration - the problem is a country where the parents have given up on their children, because the government calls them cruel if they try to bring up their children properly. In addition, there aren't enough places for young people to be after school, not enough activities.
and for those who are saying to 'close the borders', remember, the white man came to africa first. not the other way round, get your history right.
anna, harlow,
The truth is the government are resposable. they have let the hole system fail. so they can become richer and we the normal persons to become poor. this is the problem. why is there world poverty in this world with so many people dying fom disease and hunger, surley this must tell you something about the government. why can we not live in harmony and love one another as brother and sister. stop this goverment taking over our lives. we get taxed too much to make ends meet. tax on everything im sick of this country and the law which they make up as they go along. i dont blame these kids for carrying a gun, if people in your area are carrying guns to do harm, and we cannot arm ourselves to protect our familes the gun totting gansters will rule the nieghborhoods, the police dont care, the police are killing people too, they have killed many people not just black but white and of other ethnic backgrounds.
steven henry, london,
A deprived area? A great library and sports centre. Wish we had half as good here.
Rambling Sid, Haywards Heath, England
Yet another triumph for multicultural Britain and most evidence of the wonderful `enrichment` it has brought.How about an apology from those who have allowed this to happen and those who have quite happily allowed gettos to grow up in Britain.This,alas,is only the begining.Stand by for more of the same,much more.
Patrick, Nottingham, England
Looks like England is starting to have its immigrate problems like we have here in California...wish you luck...Close your borders, look what is happening to us...a lost of our great culture.
Eddie V Meeks, Costa Mesa, Ca